A World of Responsibility

Our world and the universe itself changes from second to second. This is change is material and spiritual and is a part of the physical and emotional change we live, day to day. We have to be willing to change if we care to live, our ideas, our friendships; nothing is greater than the alternation of our lives. With this change is courage and honesty, to know the reality of ourselves, our needs, and of this is responsibility; owning up to our decisions.

Responsibility is such, causing us to take the obligation to what we are entrusted to; whether it is work or play, we are entrusted to understand through to completion what we are capable of doing, or what we want done.

I find myself always, when in a bind with a project whether at work or at home with an excuse that I cannot complete the project or have forgotten what I need to know, to make things work, in short I am always apologizing because I was not responsible. I think of running at this stage, yet some one always says this is ok, it only means I need space to carry out my mission.

A phrase written by Tom Rath in Strength Finders says, “Apologies are not enough. Excuses and Rationalizations are totally unacceptable. Your will not quite be able to live with yourself until you have made restitution.” Does the world or the universe turn its back and go another way, I don’t think so.

Think of responsibility while you are in Recovery, you must make the choices to become an earnest person again. Think of your life as needing a change, a need to grow beyond the square box you have been living in without shelves. Know you want to understand where you are, to whom you will give and how you will grow especially with others and with determination.

Written by Donald Sammons

Where There’s a Will There’s a Way

I sit at work sometimes wondering how to continue working a project that has me stumped. I become agitated my emotions change; I even become afraid that I am not capable of doing the work I was assigned. I want to run away at that point, just get up from my chair and leave everything behind. The computer programmer I share the office with calls it some sort of “fight or flight” syndrome, I call it “giving up”. This has everything to do with developed and undeveloped skills, and it’s what I perceive in my mind, not being able to focus on what is expected of me. My attention span dwindles and I become confused when there is no answer, and as I try to think, everything spins down different avenues, I am ready to run! This reaction is as physical as it is mental, a sort of Bi-Polar (manic) reaction.

Such reactions have been known as tools to survival and there are people who will say that no one person can persevere with such emotional responses as these, which is true in extreme cases. We need to stop and take time to clear our minds and think, with a reference book on how to take our next step! With all of the information that exist in the world, word of mouth, TV, news paper, computers, radio, just to mention a bit of the media of communication, I often wonder where is there to run for that quiet instance when we need to clear our minds and find a change of pace to carry on.

The will to overcome such anxiety, on the job, at home, at the airport comes from the belief that you can accept what must be done at that moment. Don’t run, clear your mind, set the world apart from the beginning of what troubles you and relax with only the one thought that it’s easy to feel the breeze of that thought which can change the ignorance you are feeling. You might think it’s silly to just walk outside the office (outdoors), or anywhere outside of where you feel you are closed in, even if your are at home or even set your work aside; yet know you need a minutes space greater than where you are and go there beyond disparity. That instance you have begun to relax what has been troubling you, and you are putting aside impatience and your gaining calmness and enthusiasm to finding your way beyond the “fight and flight” of confusion; finding space outside that cell that is giving you negative vibes is not wrong, it’s the running away that keeps you in that sphere as they say, where there’s a will there’s a way, and the first step is to believe you answer is real and at hand…relax.

Written by Donald Sammons